Saturday, December 31, 2011

"Serious Reservations" About President Obama

It hardly matters that President Obama may have "serious reservations" about the indefinite detention provisions that he just signed into law as part of the defense spending bill.  And it provides little comfort that his signing statement purports to clarify that his "Administration will not authorize the indefinite military detention without trial of American citizens,” or that he believes "that doing so would break with our most important traditions and values as a Nation."

The problem, as David Dayen points out "was always about the codifying of indefinite military detention into the law, available for any future President to pick up and use."  Or as the ACLU puts it: "the statute is particularly dangerous because it has no temporal or geographic limitations, and can be used by this and future presidents to militarily detain people captured far from any battlefield."
 
Dayen further explains:
The vagaries of the language in the statute, which allows for detentions of people “associated” with Al Qaeda, and the burden on Presidential waivers to avoid military detentions rather than an opt-in kind of process, make the language extremely unadvisable from the standpoint of the civil liberties community. However, it’s important to recognize that the Obama Administration really was already in practice allowing for the indefinite military detention of terrorist suspects. They didn’t want language that hindered their counter-terrorism processes, particularly those of the FBI. That’s what they got out of the changes, so the codification really didn’t matter to them at that point. There are painfully few political actors in Washington opposed to this complete breach of the Constitutional right to due process.
So, President Obama, how about some Wilco to close out 2011?  Unfortunately, unlike the lyric, I do have reservations about you.  Serious reservations.

Another Year In Crazy

Tom Tomorrow's year in review encapsulates the utter absurdity of our political discourse over the past 12 months, particularly coming from the right.  As he says, 2011 brought "more lunacy than we could fit in an entire year's worth of cartoons," but he sure gave a valiant effort.

Here is the link to part one and here is part two.  As always, you can click on the Tom Tomorrow badge on the right side of this blog for the link to his latest strip.  Undoubtedly the craziness will continue, and lucky for us Tom Tomorrow will be there to capture it.

A Year in Review

How are you spending your last day of 2011?  I took this past week off of work so that I could be home to focus on a few final projects before 2012 starts up.  Since I am going back to school in January, my goal was to have my apartment cleaned, my desk fully organized, and some other random nagging life tasks complete before the new year.  Let's just say that it has been quite the flurry of activity over here.


In addition to cleaning, I've also been working on some New Year's resolutions.  I am one of those people that love creating goals so I always make resolutions and keep them posted throughout my home to help me remember them.  My favorite of my 2011 resolutions was to "push my athletic boundaries."  Even though I faced some physical challenges this year (e.g. healing from a shoulder injury and dealing with some severe knee pain), I had some cool accomplishments:
I am also pretty proud that for the last couple of months I've gotten back into my 5 am workouts and have increased my workouts to 6 days a week. Woot!

For 2012 I decided on a few simple resolutions:
  • Live like I mean it.
  • Respect my body. 
  • Know that I am worth it.
I still plan to continue pushing my athletic boundaries, but I wanted to focus my 2012 goals on having more fun and reminding myself to live my life to the fullest.  Since I am going back to school and getting ready to start my own business I think this next year will be a really important time for me to "know that I am worth it" and believe in everything that I am doing. 

What are your resolutions for the New Year?

Of course no resolution list would be complete without my last 2012 resolution: Eat good food. Enough said. In order to properly ring in the New Year I though it would be fun to end 2011 with a list of my favorite foods from this year:  

1. Favorite Breakfast: Easy Overnight Oats
3. Favorite Drink: Pumpkin Spice Smoothie
4. Favorite Appetizer: Spicy Roasted Golden Beets
5. Favorite Snack: Perfect Stove-Top Popcorn

What were your favorite foods from 2011?  

See you in the New Year!

Risk of heart attack and stroke goes up during holidays - Mayo Clinic video



From the Mayo Clinic YouTube channel: Are you at an increased risk of heart attack and stroke? Studies show the incidents rise during December and January, but particularly on Christmas Day and New Year's Day. Stay safe.

Jon Lord (70), a Hammond organ player, and a founding member of Deep Purple, who is currently recovering from cancer, says it very well: "Party hearty but look after yourselves. I wish you success and happiness, and above all I wish you health."



Jon Lord - Child In Time, 4 March, 2009, Palace of Arts (MÜPA), Budapest, Hungary.

Happy New Year!

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Jon wishes you a Happy New Year

Friday, December 30, 2011

Blog Essentials

After blogging for a little over a year it seems to me that the one invaluable skill I've brought to the endeavor is an ability to tune out so much of the noise and static that stands in for meaningful political discourse and tease out some of the essential issues, facts and insights that, in my view, deserve attention.  I have only been able to do this, however, by relying on other blogs which provide consistently inspired, incisive, and informative content.  

Taking a tip from Meteor Blades over at Daily Kos, who created a list of worthwhile blogs (somehow Fair and Unbalanced didn't make the cut), I thought I would create my own top 20.  So, here is a non-exclusive list of the bloggers who inspired and informed me in 2011, and who have made Fair and Unbalanced a far more interesting blog than if I had to come up with all this stuff on my own:

Amy Davidson, Robert Reich, Greg Sargent, Steve Benen, Tom Engelhardt, Digby, Josh Marshall, Kevin Drum, Adam Serwer, the folks at Campaign for America's Future (including Robert Borosage, Isaiah Poole, RJ Eskow, Dave Johnson), Jodi Jacobson and others at RH Reality Check, David Dayen, Marcia Ishii-Eiteman, Glenn Greenwald, Howie Klein, Meteor Blades, Joan McCarter, Laura Clawson and others at Daily Kos, and the writers at ThinkProgress, Talk Left, American Constitution Society and Other Words.

Beshear says no to hospital merger

Gov. Steve Beshear has said no to the much-discussed merger between three major Kentucky health systems, which, because it required his blessing, puts an end to the proposal.

"After exhaustive discussions and research, I have determined that this proposed transaction is not in the best interest of the commonwealth and therefore should not move forward," he said. "In my opinion, the risks to the public outweigh the potential benefits."

The merger would have been between University of Louisville's University Hospital, Jewish Hospital & St. Mary's HealthCare and Saint Joseph Health System, owned by Catholic Health Initiatives. Because Saint Joseph would have had majority control in the deal, the other facilities would have had to adhere to Catholic health directives, which affect procedures such as elective abortions, sterilizations, artificial insemination and euthanasia. (C-J photo by John Rott)

"That raised concerns among many community members and leaders, who also worried about the possibility of more limitations in the future if Catholic directives change," reports Laura Ungar of The Courier-Journal.

Beshear said the merger would result in considerable legal and policy concerns. "However, most troubling to me is the loss of control of a public asset," he said. "University Hospital is a public asset with an important public mission, and if this merger were allowed to happen, U of L and the public would have only indirect and minority influence over the new statewide network's affairs and its use of state assets."

Attorney General Jack Conway applauded Beshear's call. "I believe he ultimately made the appropriate decision on behalf of the commonwealth's interests," he said.

Hospital officials expressed disappointment, saying the "greatest beneficiaries of the proposed merger" would have been the patients of the commonwealth.

Beshear acknowledged the changing face of health care landscape does present new problems, but added he is committed to helping University and Jewish Hospital & St. Mary's HealthCare reach "our shared goals of providing quality care, especially to our poorest and most vulnerable citizens, as well as finding ways to ensure both facilities remain on strong financial footing," he said. (Read more)

En Route to Agra, India - Inside Fatephur Sikri







A Day in Jaipur

                                                                 Amber Fort

                                                             
                                                                Hawa Mahal

                                                             Inside Amber Fort



                                                               Hall of Mirrors
                                                                 
                                                       Sundial in Jantar Mantar











Inside City Palace



                                                             Temple by the Lake

Scenes from Delhi

Birla Temple

Across India Gate

Inside Qutab Minar

Qutab Minar Tower


India Gate, inspired by Paris' Arc De Triomphe

Qutab Minar

Balai' Lotus Temple

Indian Parliament House

Sacred Heart Cathedral

2011's Occupied Hearts And Minds

Compassion Is Our New Currency

By Rebecca Solnit, cross-posted from Tom Dispatch

Usually at year’s end, we’re supposed to look back at events just passed -- and forward, in prediction mode, to the year to come. But just look around you! This moment is so extraordinary that it has hardly registered. People in thousands of communities across the United States and elsewhere are living in public, experimenting with direct democracy, calling things by their true names, and obliging the media and politicians to do the same.

The breadth of this movement is one thing, its depth another. It has rejected not just the particulars of our economic system, but the whole set of moral and emotional assumptions on which it’s based. Take the pair shown in a photograph from Occupy Austin in Texas.  The amiable-looking elderly woman is holding a sign whose computer-printed words say, “Money has stolen our vote.” The older man next to her with the baseball cap is holding a sign handwritten on cardboard that states, “We are our brothers’ keeper.”

The photo of the two of them offers just a peek into a single moment in the remarkable period we’re living through and the astonishing movement that’s drawn in… well, if not 99% of us, then a striking enough percentage: everyone from teen pop superstar Miley Cyrus with her Occupy-homage video to Alaska Yup’ik elder Esther Green ice-fishing and holding a sign that says “Yirqa Kuik” in big letters, with the translation -- “occupy the river” -- in little ones below.

The woman with the stolen-votes sign is referring to them. Her companion is talking about us, all of us, and our fundamental principles. His sign comes straight out of Genesis, a denial of what that competitive entrepreneur Cain said to God after foreclosing on his brother Abel’s life. He was not, he claimed, his brother’s keeper; we are not, he insisted, beholden to each other, but separate, isolated, each of us for ourselves.

Think of Cain as the first Social Darwinist and this Occupier in Austin as his opposite, claiming, no, our operating system should be love; we are all connected; we must take care of each other. And this movement, he’s saying, is about what the Argentinian uprising that began a decade ago, on December 19, 2001, called politica afectiva, the politics of affection.

If it’s a movement about love, it’s also about the money they so unjustly took, and continue to take, from us -- and about the fact that, right now, money and love are at war with each other. After all, in the American heartland, people are beginning to be imprisoned for debt, while the Occupy movement is arguing for debt forgiveness, renegotiation, and debt jubilees.



Sometimes love, or at least decency, wins.  One morning late last month, 75-year-old Josephine Tolbert, who ran a daycare center from her modest San Francisco home, returned after dropping a child off at school only to find that she and the other children were locked out because she was behind in her mortgage payments. True Compass LLC, who bought her place in a short sale while she thought she was still negotiating with Bank of America, would not allow her back into her home of almost four decades, even to get her medicines or diapers for the children.

We demonstrated at her home and at True Compass’s shabby offices while they hid within, and students from Occupy San Francisco State University demonstrated outside a True Compass-owned restaurant on behalf of this African-American grandmother. Thanks to this solidarity and the media attention it garnered, Tolbert has collected her keys, moved back in, and is renegotiating the terms of her mortgage.

Hundreds of other foreclosure victims are now being defended by local branches of the Occupy movement, from West Oakland to North Minneapolis. As New York writer, filmmaker, and Occupier Astra Taylor puts it,

Not only does the occupation of abandoned foreclosed homes connect the dots between Wall Street and Main Street, it can also lead to swift and tangible victories, something movements desperately need for momentum to be maintained. The banks, it seems, are softer targets than one might expect because so many cases are rife with legal irregularities and outright criminality. With one in five homes facing foreclosure and filings showing no sign of slowing down in the next few years, the number of people touched by the mortgage crisis -- whether because they have lost their homes or because their homes are now underwater -- truly boggles the mind.”

If what’s been happening locally and globally has some of the characteristics of an uprising, then there has never been one quite so pervasive -- from the scientists holding an Occupy sign in Antarctica to Occupy presences in places as far-flung as New Zealand and Australia, São Paulo, Frankfurt, London, Toronto, Los Angeles, and Reykjavik. And don’t forget the tiniest places, either. The other morning at the Oakland docks for the West Coast port shutdown demonstrations, I met three members of Occupy Amador County, a small rural area in California’s Sierra Nevada.  Its largest town, Jackson, has a little over 4,000 inhabitants, which hasn’t stopped it from having regular outdoor Friday evening Occupy meetings.

A little girl in a red parka at the Oakland docks was carrying a sign with a quote from blind-deaf-and-articulate early twentieth-century role model Helen Keller that said, “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt within the heart.” Why quote Keller at a demonstration focused on labor and economics? The answer is clear enough: because Occupy has some of the emotional resonance of a spiritual, as well as a political, movement.  Like those other upheavals it’s aligned with in Spain, Greece, Iceland (where they’re actually jailing bankers), Britain, Egypt, Syria, Tunisia, Libya, Chile, and most recently Russia, it wants to ask basic questions: What matters? Who matters? Who decides? On what principles?

Stop for a moment and consider just how unforeseen and unforeseeable all of this was when, on December 17, 2010, Mohamed Bouazizi, a Tunisian vegetable vendor in Sidi Bouzid, an out-of-the-way, impoverished city, immolated himself. He was protesting the dead-end life that the 1% economy run by Tunisia’s autocratic ruler Zine Ben Ali and his corrupt family allotted him, and the police brutality that went with it, two things that have remained front and center ever since. Above all, as his mother has since testified, he was for human dignity, for a world, that is, where the primary system of value is not money.

“Compassion is our new currency,” was the message scrawled on a pizza-box lid at Occupy Wall Street in Zuccotti Park in lower Manhattan -- held by a pensive-looking young man in Jeremy Ayers’s great photo portrait.  But what can you buy with compassion?

Quite a lot, it turns out, including a global movement, and even pizza, which can arrive at that movement’s campground as a gift of solidarity.  A few days into Occupy Wall Street’s surprise success, a call for pizza went out and $2,600 in pizzas came in within an hour, just as earlier this year the occupiers of Wisconsin’s state house had been copiously supplied with pizza -- including pies paid for and dispatched by Egyptian revolutionaries.

The Return of the Disappeared

During the 1970s and 1980s dictatorship and death-squad era in Chile, Argentina, Brazil, and Central America, the term “the disappeared” came to cover those who were kidnapped, held in secret, tortured, and then often executed in secret. So many decades later, their fates are often still being deciphered.

In the United States, the disappeared also exist, not thanks to a brutal army or paramilitaries, but to a brutal economy.  When you lose your job, you vanish from the workplace and sooner or later arrive at emptiness in your day, your identity, your wallet, your ability to participate in a commercial society. When you lose your home, you disappear from familiar spaces: the block, the neighborhood, the rolls of homeowners.   Often, you vanish in shame, leaving behind friends and acquaintances.

At the actions to support some of the 1,500 mostly African-American homeowners being foreclosed upon in southeastern San Francisco, several of them described how they had to overcome a powerful sense of shame simply to speak up, no less defend themselves or join this movement. In the U.S., failure is always supposed to be individual, not systemic, and so it tends to produce a sense of personal devastation that leaves its victims feeling alone and lying low, even though they are among legions of others.

The people who destroyed our economy through their bottomless greed are, on the other hand, shameless -- as shameless as the CEOs whose compensation shot up 36% in 2010, during this deep and grinding recession. Compassion is definitely not their currency.

The word “occupy” itself speaks powerfully to the American disappeared and the very idea of disappearance.  It speaks to those who have lost their occupation or the home they occupied. In its many meanings, it’s a big tent. It means to fill a space, take possession of it, employ oneself, busy oneself, fill time.  (In the seventeenth and eighteenth centuries, the verb had a meaning so sexual it fell out of common use.)  It describes the state of being present that the Occupy movement’s General Assemblies and tent camps have lived out, a space in which -- as Mohamed Bouazizi might have dreamed it -- the disappeared can reappear with dignity.

Occupy has also created a space in which people of all kinds can coexist, from the homeless to the tenured, from the inner city to the agrarian. Coexisting in public with likeminded strangers and acquaintances is one of the great foundations and experiences of democracy, which is why dictatorships ban gatherings and groups -- and why our First Amendment guarantee of the right of the people peaceably to assemble is being tested more strongly today than in any recent moment in American history. Nearly every Occupy has at its center regular meetings of a General Assembly. These are experiments in direct democracy that have been messy, exasperating and miraculous: arenas in which everyone is invited to be heard, to have a voice, to be a member, to shape the future. Occupy is first of all a conversation among ourselves.

To occupy also means to show up, to be present -- a radically unplugged experience for a digital generation. Today, the term is being applied to any place where one plans to be present, geographically or metaphorically: Occupy Wall Street, occupy the food system, occupy your heart. The ad hoc invention of the people’s mic by the occupiers of Zuccotti Park, which requires everyone to listen, repeat, and amplify what’s being said, has only strengthened this sense of presence. You can’t text or half-listen if your task is to repeat everything, so that everyone hears and understands. You become the keeper of your brother’s or sister’s voice as you repeat their words.

It’s a triumph of the here and now -- and it’s everywhere: the Regents of the University of California are mic-checked, politicians are mic-checked, the Durban Climate Conference in South Africa had occupiers and mic-check moments. Activism had long been in dire need of new modes of doing things, and this year it got them.

A Mouthful of Truth

Before the Occupy movement arrived on the scene, political dialogue and media chatter in this country seemed to be arriving from a warped parallel universe. Tiny government expenditures were denounced, while the vortex sucking our economy dry was rarely addressed; hard-working immigrants were portrayed as deadbeats; people who did nothing were anointed as “job creators”; the trashed economy and massive suffering were overlooked, while politicians jousted over (and pundits pontificated about) the deficit; class war was only called class war when someone other than the ruling class waged it. It’s as though we were trying to navigate Las Vegas with a tattered map of medieval Byzantium -- via, that is, a broken language in which everything and everyone got lost.

Then Occupy arrived and, as if swept by some strange pandemic, a contagious virus of truth-telling, everyone was suddenly obliged to call things by their real names and talk about actual problems. The blather about the deficit was replaced by acknowledgments of grotesque economic inequality. Greed was called greed, and once it had its true name, it became intolerable, as had racism when the Civil Rights Movement named it and made it evident to those who weren’t suffering from it directly. The vast scale of suffering around student debt and tuition hikes, foreclosures, unemployment, wage stagnation, medical costs, and the other afflictions of the normal American suddenly moved to the top of the news, and once exposed to the light, these, too, became intolerable.

If the solutions to the nightmares being named are neither near nor easy, naming things, describing reality with some accuracy, is at least a crucial first step.  Informing ourselves as citizens is another.  Aspects of our not-quite-democracy that were once almost invisible are now on the table for discussion -- and for opposition, notably corporate personhood, the legal status that gives corporations the rights, but not the obligations and vulnerabilities, of citizens. (One oft-repeated Occupier sign says, “I’ll believe corporations are people when Texas puts one to death.”)

The Los Angeles City Council passed a measure calling for an end to corporate personhood, the first big city to join the Move to Amend campaign against corporate personhood and against the 2009 Supreme Court Citizens United ruling that gave corporations unlimited ability to insert their cash in our political campaigns. Occupy actions across the country are planned for January 20th, the second anniversary of Citizens United. Vermont’s independent Senator Bernie Sanders, who’s been speaking the truth alone for a long time, introduced a constitutional amendment to repeal Citizens United and limit corporate power in the Senate, while Congressman Ted Deutch (D-FL) introduced a similar measure in the House.

Only a few years ago, hardly anyone knew what corporate personhood was.  Now, signs denouncing it are common.  Similarly, at Occupy events, people make it clear that they know about the New Deal-era financial reform measure known as the Glass-Steagall Act, which was partially repealed in 1999, removing the wall between commercial and investment banks; that they know about the proposed financial transfer tax, nicknamed the Robin Hood Tax, that would raise billions with a tiny levy on every financial transaction; that they understand many of the means by which the 1% were enriched and the rest of us robbed.

This represents a striking learning curve. A new language of truth, debate about what actually matters, an informed citizenry: that’s no small thing. But we need more.

We Are the 99.999%

I was myself so caught up in the Occupy movement that I stopped paying my usual attention to the war over the climate -- until I was brought up short by the catastrophic failure of the climate negotiations in Durban, South Africa. There, earlier this month, the most powerful and carbon-polluting countries managed to avoid taking any timely and substantial measures to keep the climate from heating up and the Earth from slipping into unstoppable chaotic change.

It’s our nature to be more compelled by immediate human suffering than by remote systemic problems. Only this problem isn’t anywhere near as remote as many Americans imagine.  It’s already creating human suffering on a large scale and will create far more. Many of the food crises of the past decade are tied to climate change, and in Africa thousands are dying of climate-related chaos. The floods, fires, storms, and heat waves of the past few years are climate change coming to call earlier than expected in the U.S.

In the most immediate sense, Occupy may have weakened the climate movement by focusing many of us on the urgent suffering of our brothers, our neighbors, our democracy. In the end, however, it could strengthen that movement with its new tactics, alliances, spirit, and language of truth. After all, why have we been unable to make the major changes required to limit greenhouse gases in the atmosphere? The answer is a word suddenly in wide circulation: greed. Responding adequately to this crisis would benefit every living thing. When it comes to climate change, after all, we are the 99.999%.

But the international .001% who profit immeasurably from the carbon economy -- the oil and coal tycoons, industrialists, and politicians whose strings they pull -- are against this change. For decades, they’ve managed to propagandize many Americans, in and out of government, into climate denial, spreading lies about the science and economics of climate change, and undermining any possible legislation and international negotiations to ameliorate it. And if you think the eviction of elderly homeowners is brutal, think of it as a tiny foreshadowing of the displacement and disappearance of people, communities, nations, species, habitats. Climate change threatens to foreclose on all of us.

The groups working on climate change now, notably 350.org and Tar Sands Action, have done astonishing things already. Most recently, with the help of native Canadians, local activists, and alternative media, they very nearly managed to kill the single scariest and biggest North American threat to the climate: the tar sands pipeline that would go from Canada to Texas. It’s been a remarkable show of organizing power and popular will. Occupy the Climate may need to come next.

Maybe Occupy Wall Street and its thousands of spin-offs have built the foundation for it. But perhaps the greatest gift that it and the other movements of 2011 have given us is a sharpening of our perceptions -- and our conflicts. So much more is out in the open now, including the greed, the brutality with which entities from the Egyptian army to the Oakland police impose the will of rulers, and most of all the deep generosity of spirit that is behind, within, and around these insurgencies and their activists. None of these movements is perfect, and individuals within them are not always the greatest keepers of their brothers and sisters.  But one thing couldn’t be clearer: compassion is our new currency.

Nothing has been more moving to me than this desire, realized imperfectly but repeatedly, to connect across differences, to be a community, to make a better world, to embrace each other. This desire is what lies behind those messy camps, those raucous demonstrations, those cardboard signs and long conversations. Young activists have spoken to me about the extraordinary richness of their experiences at Occupy, and they call it love.

In the spirit of calling things by their true names, let me summon up the description that Ella Baker and Martin Luther King used for the great communities of activists who stood up for civil rights half a century ago: the beloved community. Many who were active then never forgot the deep bonds and deep meaning they found in that struggle. We -- and the word “we” encompasses more of us than ever before -- have found those things, too, and this year we have come close to something unprecedented, a beloved community that circles the globe.

Rebecca Solnit, a TomDispatch regular, continues occupying the public library, the sidewalks, her deepest hopes, and the armchair in which she writes, supports 350.org, and joins Occupy San Francisco and Occupy Oakland in their general assemblies and actions.  

When Karma Hits People like Her

Image courtesy of www.thoughtsfromatrashcan.blogspot.com

I'm writing my last blind item of the year from Agra, India. Since karma figures a lot in Indian religions, I want to share this juicy story with all of you. 

This actress with a beautiful face has always disliked this certain actress who used to be the ex-girlfriend of her former husband. That's why she had the shock of her life when she found out that she became the latest girlfriend of her father-in-law.

She has said so many negative things about this girl to the point that her husband has sided with her. There was also an incident where her husband argued with his father after calling his girlfriend a golddigger.

Now, the pretty actress has to pretend to be friendly with her father-in-law's girlfriend whenever she's with them. That's her karma!

Can you identify who these actresses are? Kindly observe the guidelines in writing comments and remember that initials and comments that are too explicit will not be accepted.

Follow MicSyLim on Twitter for the latest update. Please continue to send your juicy stories to: michaelsylim@gmail.com. Thank you very much for loving Fashion PULIS.

Book Review: Odd Girl Out by Rachel Simmons (Revised Edition)

The newly revised and updated edition of Odd Girl Out is a must have for every person who is parenting or educating a girl.

This was the first book I grabbed once my fall classes were over. A bookshelf of books have been taunting me since August, but this is the one I had to read first. Why? I think it's because I have a daughter. She's eight and in the 3rd grade and we've already had two incidents involving bullying. The first was in preschool and the second was last year. Both incidents were handled by teachers are administrators in a manner that Simmons suggests in Chapter 12: the road ahead for teachers and administrators. That chapter gives some wonderful suggestions on how to set up a school or even a classroom to be as bully-proof as possible. Obviously no place can be bully-proof, but one thing that Simmons points out is that one way to address bullying is to have a transparent and predictable system of consequences. If a student knows that Sally and Maria are the teacher's favorite and nothing they do gets them in real trouble, that student feels disempowered to act and report bullying she may be experiencing or witnessing. Having a consistent system of consequences also sends a clear message to students who bully that it will not be tolerated.

Simmons doesn't advocate for a zero-tolerance policy that gets 7-year-olds expelled, rather a zero-tolerance policy that is just that, zero-tolerance for bullying a classmate.

As a kid I had my share of girlfriends, but at recess I was more prone to hang with the boys playing softball, football or plain old wrestling. I can't recall being bullied on the playground the way Simmons reports, I guess I'm lucky. Or maybe because the girls from my school were working class and we were all tough in our own ways. I can't recall more than a couple of girls who were overly girly. That said, I can see the girly girls in my daughter's life.

Her first experience with bullying was from a girl who was trying to enforce gendered clothing. The kid was told that when she wore pants, she was a boy. Once reported, the teachers had a great conversation with the kids about kids being able to wear whatever they wanted. Clothing does not make one a girl or a boy.

Three themes really struck me as key things to remember from this book.

One is that schools have relied on girls to maintain a certain peace for years. Without most girls maintaining that peace, the whole classroom would be chaos.To ask teachers to be aware of the quiet manner girls bully each other is asking teachers to realize that their classrooms are as out of control as they sometimes seem.

And second is that this peace that we see in girls is really silence. Society teaches girls to silence their feelings in order to "be good." Simmons outlines how this silence works in girl-on-girl violence is really just training for being in a violent relationship later in life. Because being BFFs with a girl who bullies you IS VIOLENCE.

Bullying is not just how girls are. Not if we decide that it ends today. HERE. NOW. When we teach our girls to get over it, that "that's how life is, wait until your boss is a bully," we are teaching our girls to ignore that voice in their head and heart that says, "This is wrong. Walk away."

The last theme is one that a friend and I were discussing a few weeks ago. Why are women afraid to promote themselves? I know that I can look back at my childhood and know that being "all that" was frowned upon. Pride in one's work could only be taken so far. I use to write email updates to family & friends until someone very close to me wrote asking why I only send emails when I have something to brag about. That comment still keeps me from writing updates to people I know what to know what's going on with me. Especially people who aren't connected to me via social media. Simmons really digs into how promoting oneself breaks one of the cardinal rules of being a girl -- fit in. You can't fit in if you let people know how awesome you are.

Simmons updated her book to include a great chapter on cyberbullying. If you don't have time to read the whole book, skip right to chapter four: bff 2.0: cyberbullying and cyberdrama and chapter nine:  parents speak. But you really should read the whole thing. 

Warning women reading this will experience flashbacks to high school. Men who read this may have a lot of WTF moments. Either way, I highly recommend this to everyone with a girl in their lives. Get yourself a copy at Powells or IndieBound.


Disclaimer: I requested this book for review. 

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Profile Pictures

I have been debating on updating my profile picture since the one that I am using (on ALL of my online profiles) is quite dated. Though I probably should change it, I'm just not quite ready to yet.

How many of you have a special story behind your profile picture?  I'm sure we all do.  After all we selected a particular photo to represent who we are.  Today, I'd like to share my profile picture story.  I'll hope that you will share your story too!

First off, I'll share the bigger picture since all that you would normally see is a thumbnail version. This photo was taken on September 18, 2010 at the San Diego Zoo.  At the time, my husband & I were 3 month old parents.  We were a brand spanking new mommy & daddy duo to an angel of a child.  He never cried much and the times that he did - he was very easily soothed.  We were lucky and we knew it.


I like the "calm" that I feel when I see this picture and remember this day.  Though I was very tired and suffered from sleep deprivation, as new parents do, I was a relaxed new mommy with a supportive husband. This cleared the way of any "new mommy" anxieties.  My maternal instincts kicked in very strongly.   I felt confident in mothering our baby.  I'm glad that my husband caught this new mommy moment.  Baby & I were relaxed, it was a beautiful day, and his daddy & I loved our family outing.  Prior to our visit to the Zoo that day, I had never seen such a sea of strollers. Though much of the time I "wore" our son in a SleepyWrap:  WE too were there with our stroller.  The place was all abuzz with family.  We were a part of that buzz.  WE too were now a Family.

Tidbits:
  • The sunglasses (which I have misplaced & been searching for since our Hawaii trip) hid my super tired eyes.
  • Baby's Outfit: I hope that one day my son forgives me for putting him in that silly green & white striped ensemble.  In my defense: I had to shield his delicate baby skin from the San Diego Sunshine didn't I?  This was one of the few outfits that came with a hat that was his size at the time.
  • You can see our son's little dimple & his content expression on his little baby face.
  • Yes, I am actually wearing a little lipstick!  Much of my new mom moments did not include any form of make-up use.

Now time to share a photo of my hubby & my bubby from this day!  They are the story behind my profile pic!


Thursday, December 29, 2011

Occupy Congress: How The 99% Act Would Work

"The Restore the American Dream for the 99% Act," proposed by the Congressional Progressive Caucus, as previously noted, is the "most serious effort to bring together the tools needed to address today's economic crisis" and "is a direct answer to the economic anger at the heart of the Occupy movement."

Here are some of the key highlights of the bill with helpful infographics:
  • It would create more than 5 million jobs.
  • Impose new taxes for millionaires and Wall Street speculation
  • Add a public option to the Affordable Care Act
It would also:
  • Create a national infrastructure bank and invest in America
  • Eliminate handouts to big oil
  • End the wars and reduces Pentagon waste
  • Save $2.4 trillion over 10 years
This bill deserves attention and support.  As Isaiah Poole put it:
The Progressive Caucus legislation offers a different choice. We can put people to work today building the foundation of the economy of the future, or allow the stubborn subservience of congressional conservatives to millionaires and big corporations to cause more economic pain, widen the gulf between the very wealthy and struggling workers, and fuel more Occupy movements. 
Click here to endorse the Restore the American Dream for the 99% Act.

Move Your Money To A Better Bank

By Andrew Korfhage, cross-posted from Other Words

During a key scene in the classic holiday film It's A Wonderful Life, savings-and-loan proprietor George Bailey, played by Jimmy Stewart, memorably explains to the townspeople how his business works – that he's not sitting on piles of money just because he runs a small, local bank.

"Your money's not here," George tells the crowd. "It's in the Kennedy house and the MacLaren house, and a hundred others. You all put your savings in here and then we make loans to people to buy homes and cars and other things."

Alas, when you save or invest in big corporate banks in the 21st century, the bank isn't likely to explain to you, George-Bailey-style, how your money is going to work in the world. Imagine what it would be like if they would.

"Your money's not here," the bank might say. "It's financing fossil-fuel energy projects that are polluting our environment, or helping a corporation move jobs into overseas sweatshop factories. It's in the CEO bonus, and the CFO bonus, and a hundred others."

As Occupy Wall Street and related protests grew this fall, anger at the giant banks rightfully swelled as well, with a "Bank Transfer Day" declared for pulling money out of the big banks and moving to smaller local banks and credit unions. But not every news story covering this issue took note of the financial institutions specially designed to play a positive role in local communities.

Community development banks and credit unions — collectively called CDFIs, for "community development financial institutions" — direct their lending toward those who have been overlooked by conventional lenders. Unlike the conventional banks that contributed to the 2008 global economic crisis by lending out billions in unsound and predatory subprime mortgages that their borrowers couldn't repay, CDFIs take pride in their expertise with lower-income borrowers. They take the time to get to know their clients, determining what homeowners and small-business owners can actually afford.

With more of a community focus, CDFIs pursue reasonable, rather than excessive, rates of return. They target projects that lift up underserved communities, and boost local economies by financing small businesses that perform vital local services. By contrast, the New Rules Project reported in 2010 that the 20 biggest banks "devote only 18 of their commercial loan portfolios to small business," despite the clear need to spur small-business growth to jump-start our economy.

Where are the big banks directing all their money if they're not supporting small businesses? For one thing, mega-bank CEOs as a group have seen their pay skyrocket back to 2008 levels and higher. The Financial Times reports that big-bank CEO pay rose 36 percent in 2010, while average workers in private industry saw their pay rise only 2 percent.

If you'd rather see your banking and investment dollars going to improve your own community, rather than lining the pockets of CEOs or financing projects that don't match your values, there's an easy solution. When you pull your money out of your mega-bank and start banking with CDFIs, your old bank will hear your voice even louder and clearer than if you were standing on Wall Street with a bullhorn.

And you'll be joining a growing movement. Funds invested in CDFIs grew from $5 billion in assets to nearly $40 billion over the last decade. You can find lists of banks and credit unions maintained by the Community Development Bankers' Association (www.cdbanks.org) and the Federation of Community Development Credit Unions (www.cdcu.coop). You can use these resources to find your own local "George Bailey" and make a New Year's resolution to make your banking part of the solution, rather than part of the problem.

Andrew Korfhage is Green America's online and special projects editor. www.greenamerica.org

(Non-alcoholic) Ginger Spritzer



Here are some places that you should take this spritzer:
  • Family gatherings
  • New Year's Eve parties
  • Any place you are in need of refreshment

Here is one place that you should not take this spritzer:
  • Your partner's basketball game at the local community center
Apparently if you sit on the bleachers reading cookbooks and sipping this from a glass jar, it appears that you are sneaking in an alcoholic beverage.  (Believe me, I wish I had... but I totally didn't.)  But, should you find yourself in a situation where you are confronted by community center staff about the beverage in question, simply explain that it is a non-alcoholic ginger spritzer and tell them how you made it. If they're decent folk, instead of kicking you out they'll just ask for the recipe.


This spritzer is totally easy to make, but with a few lemon peel spirals it becomes uber-fancy and party-ready.  All you need is some fresh ginger root, (filtered) tap water, sparkling water, and lemon and ice, if desired.  You'll start by boiling the ginger and tap water to make a concentrated ginger tea.

If you wanted, you could even stop after this step and just enjoy the tea.  Ginger is wonderful for aiding digestion, nausea, and abdominal cramping.  This tea is a bit spicy, but it is one of my favorite treats to have after dinner while eating dark chocolate.



Once you have your ginger tea ready, chill it until serving. Then mix your tea with sparkling water, add ice and lemon, and serve!  I don't typically sweeten mine, but you could easily add some agave syrup or stevia in if desired.  If you are serving this for a crowd, then double or triple this recipe as neccessary. You can also adjust how strong you want the spritzer by adding more or less ginger.  This spritzer is the perfect non-alcoholic refreshment for New Year's and is a healthy, tasty treat that your body will enjoy as much as your taste buds.  Cheers!

Ginger Spritzer
Serves 2

one two-inch piece of fresh ginger root, chopped
1.5 cups of plain (filtered) water
16 oz sparkling water
Ice
Lemon for garnish

Bring water to a boil, add ginger, and simmer, covered, for 30 minutes - 1 hour.  Drain tea and chill in the refrigerator until serving.  Mix tea with sparkling water, add ice and garnish with lemon wedge or spiral.